Author: Kavita Kabira

Children value their friendships. The desire to please their friends or to fit in may often stand in the way of their own fulfillment. They may be concerned that disappointing their friends would cause them to lose popularity. They may exert so much effort to somehow be appreciated that they lose their own plot. Children nowadays are possibly the most bewildered of all in this nearly emotionally barren generation. With few role models to look up to, so many options, and fierce competition, it’s no surprise that they’re struggling to discover themselves. Furthermore, peer pressure appears to aggravate the situation.…

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I belong to a school where love is romanticized. For me, it is still a fairy tale: a bright summer day, the edge of the mountain, a country shack on the beach, a long drive, holding hands, looking at the sky for hours together, reading books, dedicating songs. It’s still the same for me. Yet, when I look around, I get confused. It’s a changed definition for most people. Love is floating all around. It is there in the short skirts, in the tequila shots, in the Friday night plans, in the eventful gatherings. It is there in the back…

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Music is a vibration. So is everything that exists in the universe. Music therapy is growing every day as a positive and inexpensive way to heal the whole world. It is an expressive therapy based on emotional, physical, and social aspects that touches all parts of you. I have personally seen people switch from one mood to another once they are exposed to a certain form of music. Adding music to treatment improves symptoms, even in schizophrenics, according to research. Furthermore, it can play an important role in reducing depression, anxiety, and chronic pain. The area is so vast that…

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It began as a notion and ended up as an insightful, frightening blog. During one of my workshops at a well-known new age school, I noticed something about our students. When I used an example from the Ramayana, I was astounded to discover that only half of the class could relate to the epic. Many of them couldn’t relate to the Panchatantra stories. “What exactly was Ravana’s fault?” “So, why did Rama choose Banwas?” How come he didn’t say no? ” “Did Rama Lakshman have the right to beat a woman?” Questions that are quite pragmatic. In fact, during the…

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Loneliness is a poison that slowly kills you. The difficulty with mental illness is that no one understands what you’re going through until you’ve reached a breaking point. Tears well up in your eyes, revealing the extent of the pain you’ve endured. The number of times your self-esteem has been shattered and you have still managed to live. It stings at every turn, but because you’re wearing orange lipstick and bright eye makeup, everyone believes you’re in the best of spirits. You go out and help tiny kids overcome their phobias, and you talk to adults about their lives. You…

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How many times have I overheard young parents discussing the stress they face while dealing with their children? Yes, there are some. The very first point is the generational divide. Assume for a moment that all of our brains had a switch. The switch is continuously changing, and when we approach 2007, the switch abruptly vanishes. A chip is installed instead. A semiconductor with a highly sophisticated architecture needs data to be fed in a certain format. We’ve always dealt with shifts. Manually enter data as and when it is needed. The irony is that we don’t have to input…

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Risha, one of my clients, was talking to me the other day about her relationship with her boyfriend, which isn’t going anywhere. There is continuous squabbling, and nothing seems to be going right. On top of that, she’d learned that her husband was having an affair with her. “I discovered photos and intimate texts laced with longing.” “I’m really broken, Kavita,” she confessed. It took me at least 10 sessions to reconcile her thinking and re-establish trust in her relationship. It also required me to meet with Harsh in our final two meetings, because sometimes you need someone else to…

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You don’t need to meditate like a Buddhist monk for hours to feel the benefits of meditation. There is a shortcut… Binaural Beats! Binaural Beats Meditations are actually my favourites, mainly because they are so effective. Many people miss out on the benefits of meditation because they cannot reach a deeper state of mind during meditation. Binaural beats are your secret weapon;-)! No matter if you are a beginner or a meditation expert, binaural beats can help you relax within minutes and take you right into a blissful state. But let’s start from the beginning. What are binaural beats exactly?…

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For some time now, I’ve been using binaural beats to help me focus while I am writing. I am not convinced that the binaural beats themselves help me focus, but for some reason, the ritual of putting on a binaural track, taking my headphones, and committing to finishing something makes my productivity soar. The “science” behind the effect of binaural beats appears to be insufficient at best and frequently suspect. Most likely, using a white noise generator would give me the same results – and I don’t think I’m experiencing anything else than a placebo effect. Nonetheless, when I need…

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My grandma told me that the stars in the sky were the blue twinkling eyes of angels, watching over us from above. She believed that since all our gods were blue in colour, the sky was painted blue. Her marble temple in the north-east corner of her room had a beautiful blue-coloured Shiva sitting handsomely upright with a glittering half-moon on his head. Even as I grew up, I was awestruck with her stories of the legendary Shiva and often envied the content and complete Parvati. A stunning synergy honouring the man and his woman.Shiva and Shakti. We never went…

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